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What if the child talks back and loses his temper?

Listen to He Laoshi!

Children’s behavior problems may not be serious, but if they are not handled properly, they will have a great impact on children’s physical and mental health and learning and growth.

Children always talk back and lose their temper easily. What should parents do?

In fact, when children talk back, most of them have emotions in their hearts, and even many emotions are intertwined, such as dissatisfaction, anger, injustice, irritability and so on. When talking back can’t solve the problem, or lead to greater pressure and blow, losing your temper is a manifestation of your child’s helplessness and inability to cope. Why do children have such emotions? In fact, nine times out of ten, parents provoked it.

Parents are mostly unconscious.

I didn’t realize it myself

Let’s look in the mirror first.

The first mirror: no letter mirror

Many children will vomit: "I promised to accompany me, but I always left me alone because of this and that." "I clearly agreed to let me go out to play, and I changed my mind just because I was not obedient and made him unhappy." "I originally agreed to buy me a gift, because I didn’t do well in the exam, it was ruined."

Mom and dad will also be very wronged: "We are not all for your own good, but also have to work and take care of the family. No matter how busy we are, we all want to squeeze some time for you. I really can’t help it."

"I promised you to go out to play and buy gifts not only to make you happy, but also to encourage you to work hard and make progress. I hope you can become a talent. You can’t do it. I can only warn you by not letting you go out to play and not buying gifts. I hope you can take a warning and encourage you to do better next time."

In fact, for children, what can motivate them to work hard is not gifts or play, but how important he is in your heart. What matters is your work friend, whether he listens or not, his grades or him. These are all things. We ignore people’s feelings for things. Children feel bad, and they can’t do things well.

What children need is the feeling of being valued. If they promise not to do so, they will arouse their emotions.

The second mirror: double standard mirror

Parents’ two sets of standards are spit out by children:

1. Parents watch mobile phones for work or relaxation, while children watch mobile phones for fun;

2. It is hard for parents to sleep at 12 o’clock, and children will not arrange time to sleep at 12 o’clock;

3. Parents are good for their children when they lose their temper, and children are not sensible when they lose their temper;

4. Take the advantages of other people’s children to benchmark the shortcomings of their own children;

5. When my brother loses his temper, my mother will coax him, and when I lose my temper, my mother will get angry.

The third mirror: haha mirror

Unrealistic expressions, such as: parents don’t understand the situation and children are misunderstood; Parents will criticize in a general and generalized way. If they are late twice, they will say: You are always late and don’t care about your study at all; Parents like to turn over old scores. What happened a few years ago has long been changed, and it will be brought out to talk about things.

The fourth mirror: the authoritative mirror

Parents are used to nagging, reasoning, and using authoritative methods. They don’t convince their children, or they don’t understand the reasons why their children don’t do or can’t do it. They just ask their children to obey blindly. If they are not convinced, they will want to express their ideas and talk back with emotion.

There are two extremes in blindly forcing children to change. One extreme is that there is a child in your family who is stubborn and doesn’t bow his head easily. A strong approach will arouse his greater emotions to confront you, and will also inspire his fighting spirit to think of more ways to fight with you. In the end, your attention is focused on defeating each other, ignoring the really important learning and growth. At the other extreme, parents have successfully suppressed their children, and your children have gradually become good children who dare not express, dare not say no, and have no ideas of their own, or have formed a mode of suppressing emotions and forbearing to please.

In either case, the problems may be magnified or even erupted when you are in adolescence or when you are faced with the high pressure of the college entrance examination. If you solve them at that time, the price you have to pay will be great, and even some effects will be irreversible.

Therefore, to solve the problem of children talking back and losing their temper from the root, both parents and children need to work together and change at the same time.

So how to change it?

Two magic weapons for you

Magic Weapon 1: Harmonious Trilogy (Parents)

Step 1: When the child talks back and loses his temper, mom and dad should keep calm.

If you can’t, you can meditate in your mind:

When a child loses his temper, he is actually only three years old. I am * * * years old. I am not as knowledgeable as a three-year-old child, and I don’t want to be three years old. I’ll talk to him when he calms down.

Step 2: Look at yourself with four mirrors. What provoked the child just now?

If we find ourselves falling into the situation of the first three mirrors, and our children are wronged, we need to sincerely apologize. If it’s the situation reflected in the fourth mirror [authoritative mirror], it’s obvious that the way of authoritative coercion doesn’t work for your child. We need to change the way and can’t confront the child head-on.

Step 3: Listen carefully to your child’s thoughts, express your expectations, find what you want together, and discuss with your child how to reach an agreement.

When the child is calm after the problem is solved. We need to have an after-the-fact talk with our children and express how you hope that in the future, when children are emotional and dissatisfied with you, they can talk in addition to talking back and losing their temper. If you do something inappropriate, ask your child to look in the mirror and express his thoughts and feelings directly, instead of talking back.

Magic weapon 2: can use four-step expression (children)

1. You just said …;

2. I feel very … (emotional);

3. Because … (Tell the truth reflected by the faithless mirror, the double-standard mirror, the haha mirror and the authoritative mirror);

I want to … (say what I think).

Of course, the next time a child uses the four-step expression, parents should not become angry from embarrassment. They need to take the initiative to enter the Harmony Trilogy, adjust their state, look at themselves in the mirror, and discuss with their children how to solve the current problems. Don’t forget to praise the children in this process! Because of his active expression, you can avoid misunderstanding and quarrel, and help you grow up by reminding you.

Mom and dad,

When children talk back,

Let’s not lose our temper,

Try to look in the four mirrors and find the problem.

Guide children to use four-step expressions.

When you find a problem, you have a chance to solve it.

Change takes time to accumulate,

Let’s take our time together.

He yanhong

Yiwu maisuihua family education guidance center tutor

Jane, quick and happy relationship tutor

National registered second-level psychological counselor

Adolescent mental growth tutor

Source | Yiwu Women

Original title: "Happy E Home Classroom | What should I do if my child talks back and loses his temper? 》

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China Economic Weekly-Economic News On December 8, the opening ceremony of the 6th CBSA Chinese Billiards World Championship in China Jiangxi Shangrao Yushan was staged in Yushan Sports Center Square.

Present at the opening ceremony were Jia Zhisheng, deputy director of the Mass Sports Department of the State Sports General Administration, Zhao Liping, vice chairman of China Billiards Association, Gan Liantong, vice chairman of China Billiards Association and Beijing Star Group, Yang Musheng, deputy director of Jiangxi Provincial Political Consultative Conference, Xiao Liqing, deputy secretary-general of Jiangxi Provincial Political Consultative Conference and full-time vice chairman of the Provincial Committee of Jiu San Society, Jin Ziwei, member and deputy director of Jiangxi Provincial Sports Bureau, Qiu Xiangjun, deputy secretary of CPC Shangrao Municipal Committee and mayor. Zhu Meiqing, Vice Mayor of Shangrao Municipal Government; Mao Zubin, Secretary General of Shangrao Municipal Government; Luo Laishui, Party Secretary and Director of Shangrao Sports Bureau; Zheng Guoliang, Secretary of Yushan County Committee of the Communist Party of China; Yu Honglei, Deputy Secretary of Yushan County Committee of the Communist Party of China; Gan Jialing, General Manager of Beijing Xingwei Sporting Goods Co., Ltd.; Batuga Osol, Minister of Sports and Culture of Mongolia; Narambata Joygawa, First Deputy Minister of Mongolia International Olympic Committee; Likit Intabang, Secretary General of Laos International Olympic Committee; and Kaihua and Jiangshan, Zhejiang Players from 41 countries and regions around the world, domestic first-line referees, nearly 100 mainstream media representatives and anchors also attended the opening ceremony.

As a billiards project with independent intellectual property rights in China, Chinese billiards became popular in China as soon as it came out in 1980s. In 2012, the Small Ball Sports Management Center of the State Sports General Administration and Star Brand jointly announced the name "Chinese billiards", and Chinese billiards was also recognized as a formal sport by the State Sports General Administration, and the sport began to get on the right track.

In 2015, the China Billiards Association initiated the CBSA Chinese Billiards World Championship, which accelerated the internationalization of Chinese billiards, made Chinese billiards gradually accepted by billiards players and fans all over the world, and spread the rules and skills of Chinese billiards around the world. Now, more and more countries and regions have begun to incorporate it into their own billiards system, and Chinese billiards has become an important part of the world billiards.

A total of 496 players from 41 countries and regions participated in this Chinese billiards World Championships, and the number of participating countries and participants reached a new high, making it the largest Chinese billiards competition in the world. The total prize money of the tournament is 10.43 million RMB, which is the highest in the world, including 3 million for the men’s team and 1 million for the women’s team. In the next eight days, billiards groups from all over the world will stage the battle of the peak of Chinese billiards and compete for the honor of world champion.

At the opening ceremony, Jia Zhisheng, deputy director of the Mass Sports Department of the State Sports General Administration, delivered a wonderful speech: "The Chinese Billiards World Championship is a benchmark and model for the development of high-quality events in Jiangxi Province, which will further promote the promotion of Chinese billiards in the world, further increase the positive impact on the economic and social development of Yushan and even Jiangxi, and make contributions to promoting friendly exchanges and exchanges between China and other countries in the world."

Zhao Liping, vice chairman of China Billiards Association, fully affirmed the significance of the Chinese Billiards World Championships: "The number of participating countries and the number of participants in the Chinese Billiards World Championships have reached a new high, which not only shows that more and more countries and regions like and participate in Chinese billiards, but more importantly, more and more countries and regions have recognized the regularity, professionalism and authority of the Chinese Billiards World Championships."

Gan Liantong, vice chairman of China Billiards Association and Beijing Xingpai Group, said: "The Chinese Billiards World Championships is not only a simple sports event, but also the achievements and honors of all athletes. It is a platform for billiards people all over the world to communicate and enhance their friendship, and it is also a platform to show the charm of Chinese billiards and Yushan."

Chinese billiards world championships have grown from scratch, and the governments of Jiangxi Province, Shangrao City and Yushan County have made great contributions. Zhu Meiqing, deputy mayor of Shangrao Municipal Government, said: "We will adhere to the concept of" running a good game and invigorating a city ",make full efforts to promote the deep integration of" sports+culture+tourism "with the help of competitions and the media, accelerate the building of Yushan into a world-class venue for billiards competitions, and let more billiards lovers enter Shangrao, enjoy life and experience happiness."

In recent years, Yushan has made every effort to build a county-level sports brand featuring billiards, successfully held five Chinese billiards world championships, four Chinese snooker world open tournaments and Chinese billiards international professional leagues, and implemented three major industrial projects, namely, "International Billiards Culture City, Star Billiards Industrial Park and Top Billiards Tournament", gradually stepping out of the characteristic road of high-quality development of county-level sports from resources to products, from products to events, from events to cultures, and from cultures to brands. Zheng Guoliang, secretary of the Yushan County Committee of the Communist Party of China, said: "We will adhere to the new development concept of openness and sharing, adhere to integrity and innovation, and strive to create a’ safe, comfortable and beautiful’ competition and living environment for each contestant, and strive to make this competition a passionate stage, enhance friendship and promote development, and make every effort to create China style, Jiangxi characteristics, Shangrao style and Yushan charm."

Chinese billiards world championships have been held for many years and have been supported by many international billiards organizations and national billiards associations. The vigorous development of Chinese billiards has become a powerful link between China and the world. Batuga Osol, Minister of Sports and Culture of Mongolia, said: "The Chinese Billiards World Championships is the highest level Chinese billiards competition in the world, and it will surely be a fierce and wonderful competitive feast. I am also looking forward to seeing the friendship and team spirit among the players and creating unforgettable moments on this stage. "

At the opening ceremony, there were also wonderful cultural performances, and the creative programs which blended Chinese and Western cultures reflected the internationalization of Chinese billiards and the unique charm of Yushan, a world famous billiards city.

Finally, the leaders jointly kicked off, and Qiu Xiangjun, deputy secretary of Shangrao Municipal Committee of the Communist Party of China and mayor, announced the official opening of the 6th Chinese Billiards World Championship.

(Vingo)

Original title: Photos | Lingao Volleyball Championship continues to open, taking you to unlock the audience’s watching posture.

New Hainan Client, Nanhai Net February 19 news (Reporter Liang Zhenwen Wang Chengxian) On February 19 th, the "Chinese Dream Working Beauty"-"Witt Cup" 2024 Hainan (Lingao) Trade Union Elite Volleyball Championship entered the second competition day. Many citizen tourists brought their stools to watch the game at one o’clock in the afternoon. The game has not yet started, and the scene is already full of citizen tourists waiting for the start.

Citizen tourists waiting for the start of the game. Reporter Wang Chengxian photo

Citizen tourists waiting for the start of the game. Reporter Wang Chengxian photo

Citizen tourists waiting for the start of the game. Reporter Wang Chengxian photo

Citizen tourists waiting for the start of the game. Reporter Wang Chengxian photo

Citizen tourists waiting for the start of the game. Reporter Wang Chengxian photo

Citizen tourists waiting for the start of the game. Reporter Wang Chengxian photo

Citizen tourists waiting for the start of the game. Reporter Wang Chengxian photo

Citizen tourists waiting for the start of the game. Reporter Wang Chengxian photo

Citizen tourists waiting for the start of the game. Reporter Wang Chengxian photo (Liang Zhenwen Wang Chengxian)

Special topic: All parts of the country are United in fighting snow disasters.

　　　　Xinhuanet Chongqing, January 28 (Reporter Wang Jintao) On the morning of the 28th, there were many snowflakes floating in the main city of Chongqing. This is the first time in 16 years that it snows in the main city of Chongqing.

　　　　The altitude of the main urban area of Chongqing is between 200 meters and 300 meters. Because of its low altitude, surrounded by high mountains and its geographical location is south, its winter temperature is often higher than that of other cities at the same latitude. Chongqing citizens have never seen snow since it snowed in the main city of Chongqing in 1992.

　　　　According to the forecast of Chongqing Meteorological Observatory, a southbound cold air will arrive in Chongqing on the evening of January 27th, which will bring an obvious heavy snow and rain process to Chongqing. It is estimated that the average temperature in the main city of Chongqing on the 28th will be 2 degrees Celsius to 4 degrees Celsius, and the temperature in some areas may be below zero degrees Celsius.

　　　　Some citizens told reporters that there was only sporadic light rain in the sky on the morning of the 28th, but on their way to work, the rain turned into snowflakes, and it was getting bigger and bigger, and the amount of snow was equivalent to a moderate rain.

　　　　Despite the cold weather, some children in the main city of Chongqing still ran into the yard to meet the long-lost snowflakes. However, there is no snowy scene in the main city of Chongqing, and the snow melts when it falls to the ground. The meteorological staff said that because the temperature in the main city of Chongqing is still relatively high compared with other cities in the north, the ground generally does not freeze.

Editor: Liu Li

BEIJING, Beijing, January 21st (Reporter Chen Hang) From January 20th to 21st, 2024, the 5th Beijing-Zhangjia Volkswagen Ski Exchange Competition started at Vanke Shi Jinglong Ski Resort in Yanqing, Beijing, and 240 skiers from Beijing and Hebei Province raced through the snow.

As one of the brand sports events in Yanqing District, Beijing, the Beijing-Zhangjia Volkswagen Ski Exchange Competition aims to further carry forward the spirit of Beijing Winter Olympics, promote the popularization and development of mass ice and snow sports, build a platform for in-depth exchange and interaction between ice and snow lovers in Beijing and Zhangjiakou, improve the ability of ice and snow sports in Yanqing District, Beijing and the level of professional referees, further expand the development achievements of ice and snow population, and make good use of the legacy of Winter Olympics.

With the aim of "friendship, communication and progress", this competition is divided into four groups: adult men and women and young men and women.

On the 20th, with the start of the competition, the players set off along the track with their feet on the skis, shuttled flexibly on the track, constantly changing their movements, and staged the "speed and passion" of ice and snow sports.

It is reported that the Beijing Yanqing Ski Association, as the organizer of the event, has delivered a number of alpine skiing referees and managers of ice and snow events to Yanqing District in the form of "training by competition" in recent years.

In the next step, Yanqing District of Beijing will further consolidate and expand the achievements of "driving 300 million people to participate in ice and snow sports" based on the functional orientation of ecological conservation area, and promote the construction of "outdoor sports city" and the most beautiful winter Olympic city with ecological civilization. At the same time, take sports events as the entry point to promote the development of global tourism, build an international ski resort, and promote the construction of Beijing-Zhangjiakou sports and cultural tourism belt.

1905 movie network news Produced by Cao Baoping, directed by Jacky Gan, starring Dapeng, Oho Ou and Li Meng, and starring Cao Bingkun, Cao Weiyu, Sha Baoliang, Ulantoya Duo, Shane, Terry and Li Shengye, the film was fully released on August 30th. Recently, the film "Desperate" also exposed the director’s special edition of "Folding Mountain City". In the special edition, not only does Jacky Gan, a director born and raised in Chongqing, tell about the "rivers and lakes of Chongqing" in his eyes, but the audience can also see how various Chongqing elements collide with the director.

In the first weekend after the film "Desperate" was officially released, it still showed great potential in the case of less than 20% of the film. Faced with the relatively tight film arrangement space, people in the industry who love "Desperate" have also called for more film arrangement, and Frant Gwo, the director of the film, also voiced support: "This is an underestimated film, and I hope more people can enter the theater to support it."

In the special edition, the winding roads and buildings with uneven heights in the mountain city provide an excellent place for the characters in the film to trade, hide and escape. At the same time, the "lost" atmosphere created by scenic spots such as light rail and river-crossing cableway, which are full of mountain city characteristics, is more conducive to the presentation of the film’s screen temperament. The looming road and light, just like the hidden desire in the hearts of the characters, also have the emotion and goodwill that have not been extinguished, and the sense of loss in the city has realized the maximum interaction with the characters. As director Jacky Gan explained: "The complexity of Chongqing’s spatial structure will bring a sense of loss. The film also tells the story of some characters who step into an environment and lose themselves, and then find their way again. "

　

In the special edition, through the use of Chongqing as a characteristic element under the lens, the director’s good potential as a young director is highlighted. Dapeng commented on the director: "The director has a kind of modesty and gentleness when creating, and will actively listen to the opinions of the actors." Li Meng also recalled: "He will let the actors enter his world in his own unique way." On the set, Jacky Gan will repeatedly instruct the young actor Ulantoya Duo’s acting skills, and often exchange experiences with experienced actors. In addition to accepting suggestions with humility and tolerance, the other side of director Jacky Gan is persistent in pursuing detail and perfection, as Cao Bingkun explained: "If the final effect of the film is one to twenty, then he doesn’ t want any two or nineteen, just one and twenty." Multi-faceted director, what remains unchanged is the diligent pursuit of loving his career, which makes producer Cao Baoping see his potential: "Jacky Gan firmly knows his own direction and works hard for it. Under the shortage of domestic commercial film directors, as long as he works hard, I believe his road will be wide."

　 　 　 　

The film "Desperate" was officially released on August 30th. Not only did the professional film platform rank first in the film released in the same period, but also the box office performance exceeded the forecast of the ticketing platform for two consecutive days. Faced with the shortage of film arrangement, people in the industry who love "Desperate" have also called for more film arrangement to support new films. Frant Gwo, the director of The Wandering Earth, voiced his support: "Throughout the whole article, the director is steady in scene control and scheduling and skilled in techniques. This is an underestimated movie, and I hope more people can support it. " Director Rao Xiaozhi also appealed to more audiences to enter the cinema to support the new director’s new work: "The director has a high ability to control the film, and has his own style among many films set in Chongqing. The excellent performance of the actors also makes the film more distinctive, so the sincere film deserves more encouragement and appreciation. I look forward to more audiences entering the theater. "

Special feature of 1905 film network　This week (June 19-June 25), the movie channel will present a number of new films premiered at home and abroad, whether it is national style or foreign blockbusters. If you miss the cinema schedule, come here and refresh your film list!

Key Tip: The movie "Team America" premiered at 13:11 this Saturday afternoon, and we will see you there!

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From the perspective of 11-year-old boy Oman, the whole film tells a story of bravely chasing dreams. Striving for the ideal is human instinct, and it is this instinct that makes human beings create miracles.

Wonderful film review:The child’s dream is exciting, and the silhouette of father and son is touching. There is love in your heart and light in your eyes. Bless all your childhood.　— — Douban film review Xiaoming

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Wonderful film review:The director did not stick to the single pattern of love movies, but broke through the conventional setting and integrated into the multi-level reflection on social reality.　— — 1905 movie network

"Genius Girl", starring "Team America" Chris Evans and the talented girl, has a very delicate performance, and the interaction between the little girl and the team before is also very loving.

My uncle Franco hopes that Mary, a talented girl who has been different since childhood, can live a normal life, while Mary’s mother wants her to go another way, so they have to go to court for custody. This film is led by gifted children and leads us to rethink family and affection.

Wonderful film review:"Team America" Evans abandoned the label of "hero" for the ordinary dream of "genius girl" and turned into a warm-hearted uncle with stubble all over his face, and even tried to fight for a free, innocent, simple and happy childhood life for the little girl at the expense of the court.　— — 1905 movie network

She has a heroic spirit, full of strength, rebellious and uncompromising strength. She is a strong woman with ideals, unyielding and tough. She is the surprise captain Carol, who is known as the strongest heroine of the "Reunion". Radiating all over, she has great strength and super-fast speed, and is an indispensable main force in the team. And what is her fascinating growth path? The film will gradually uncover the truth of the past for us.

Wonderful film review:I like Captain Surprise, and I feel that Larson’s version of Captain Surprise is by far the most powerful female super English. This is the "surprise team" in my mind.　— — Douban Film Review Jigglypuff Peach

This is a film that is particularly in line with the overall style of the work. Billy, a former policeman and now a private detective, in this broken city full of all kinds of violations, injuries and injustices, the only thing he wants to do is to atone for his past mistakes and seek compensation and comfort. Billy took revenge on the most powerful people in this city with his strong ability and tenacity of never giving up until he reached his goal, forcing them to confront each other head-on and walk into extreme despair.

Wonderful film review:Each of allen hughes’s films puts the characters in the first place, and explores the possible struggles and dynamic relationships when he is in an impossible desperate situation.　— — 1905 movie network

　　What kind of power can love produce? The online documentary My Home is a Museum gives the answer from the collector’s point of view. The work tells 12 touching stories about love. The audience can listen to the concert of Shi Lei, a collector of musical instruments, and capture the wonderful sound of "unheard of"; Open the storage cabinet with Wu erping, a collector of chemical elements, to spy on the magnificent moment of chemical reaction; Follow the meteorite hunter Zhang Bo over the mountains and touch the fragments from the vast space … The film does not introduce the knowledge of the collection too much, but tells the story of collectors exploring, protecting and displaying the collection. From traditional crafts to scientific and technological elements, from ancient costumes to national costumes, although the types of collections vary widely, collectors have a clear common ground-full of passion for what they love and a sense of responsibility for cultural communication and inheritance. It is such humanistic feelings that deeply infected the audience. A love is a perspective of observing the world, which leads us to discover a kaleidoscope of life.

　　(Zhang Jiaying)

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